Fatwa: # 47350
Category: Psychological and Social
Country: Italy
Date: 20th February 2021

Title

They love each other but cannot get married. Will they reunite in Jannah?

Question

If a woman loves somebody who is married and he also loves her (they loved each other before his marriage but he married someone else for his family's sake) would they be able to reunite in Jannah if they leave each other and stop talking for the sake of Allah SWT.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

If a person is married, he should focus on loving his spouse. It is incorrect for a married person to maintain and sustain carnal love for another person. Allah Ta’ala says: 

{وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ} [النساء: 32]

Translation: Do not desire those things (religious or worldly virtues and status over which you have no control) with which Allah Ta’ala has favoured some of you over others (so as to not create jealousy and hatred between yourselves). 

Allah Ta’ala reserved the love of the other married man for his wife and not for you. Likewise, Allah Ta’ala reserved the love of a husband for his wife and not for the other married man. To love another married man or a married man loving another married woman is encroaching in the private life and right of the other. Such thoughts are detrimental to one’s spirituality and is also a violation of the right of one’s spouse. 

Ask yourself a question, how would your husband feel if he is made aware that your heart and mind is with another man. How do you think the wife of that married man will feel if she knows that her husbands heart, mind and soul is in you? A life with such a thought is very unsettling. Such a person is never at ease as he/she is not content with his/her partner. Such a person leads an artificial and superficial life of love. Make Taubah from such a mindset and stop nursing such a thought. 

A person out of sight and out of mind is gradually forgotten. That will improve the quality of love in your marriage and you will be satisfied and content. If you do not do so, you will be punishing yourself and your feelings with such thoughts. This in turn will negatively affect your Ibadah and your greater objectives of life. 

Sister, what if your husband feels as you feel and you know that he desires to be with another woman! A woman with morals and shame will surely take exception to that attitude. If you do not like that, you too should be considerate to the feelings of your husband and the husband of that married women. See the following Hadith: 

عن أنس رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال‏:‏ “لا يؤمن أحدكم حتى يحب لأخيه ما يحب لنفسه‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏) 

Translation: Hazrath Anas (Radhiyallahu Anhu) reported: Rasullullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "None of you becomes a true believer until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Focus on living with Iman and passing away with Imam. Do not focus on Haram love and its ultimate outcome in Jannah. Jannah is a pure place for pure people with pure morals. 

And Allah Ta’ala Knows best

M. Akhtar

Student Darul Iftaa
South Africa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
 

 

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