Fatwa: # 45809
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
Country: African Country
Date: 24th July 2020

Title

Father – Son Relationship

Question

 

اسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I really love my father but how should I express it and let him know it?

I show him respect but how do I show him my love for him? I think I respect him soo much that I can't express my love for him.

Currently I am in my home country for studying but father is in foreign and working there day and night. Whenever I call him I asked only two things:-  1.how's your health?

2.And did u have food?

Another reason I call him is that If i need money.

I tried to search on youtube for help

But just found the story of an old man who recites some poem related to his fatherhood towards his son in heart and when he reaches the prophet (saw)he is asked to recite it aloud

I don't want my father to think that I call him only for money extra.

Pls help me out I can't take this guilt anymore!

جزاك الله خير

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Brother in Islam,

It is pleasing to note that you wish to express your love and gratitude to your father. May Allah Ta’ala increase your love for him.

Brother, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has mentioned in a Hadith that when a Muslim loves his Muslim brother for the sake of Allah Ta’ala, then he should express his love to him. See the following Hadith:

عن أبي كريمة المقداد بن معد يكرب رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال‏:‏ ‏ "‏إذا أحب الرجل أخاه، فليخبره أنه يحبه"

(سنن ابي داود:4773)

Translation: Abu Karimah Al-Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib (Radhiyallahu Anhu) reported: The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "When a man loves his brother (for Allah's sake) let him tell him that he loves him”. (Sunan Abi Dawood: 4773)

From the aforementioned hadith, we understand that if one should express his love for another Muslim brother, then most certainly one should convey and express his love to his father. A fathers love for his child is unconditional. Similarly, a child loves his father very much. Thus, the next time you speak to your father, tell him that you love him and that you are grateful for all the effort and sacrifices he puts into supporting your family. It is not easy for a father to be away from his children. Furthermore, the next time you phone your father, make an effort to converse with him more. Ask him how his day was, how was work, what he did today etc. Gradually, this will break the ice and you will become more comfortable when speaking to him. May Allah Ta’ala strengthen your relationship even more.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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