Fatwa: # 45784
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
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Date: 26th July 2020

Title

OCD Thoughts - How do i deal with them?

Question

Asalaam-o-alayqum ,Respected Mufti, My issue is : I am an OCD patient , the OCD i suffer from is that i get Obsessive thoughts regarding alot of deeni matters. For example when i would make wudhu or ghusul i would be in doubt , or when i pray salaah i would forget if i had performed at-tahyat, sometimes i would completely forget if i had performed salaah at all. However in marriage my condition is more severe, a short while after getting married i learned about kinaya words, i have not ever intended to do such an act, however every time i speak even in general conversation , I keep getting a overwhelming thought that these are words of kinaya you are saying. Now it is at a point even when i look at my alarm on my phone when I turn it off and swiping the word to turn off the alarm i get a thought that this is a D , or when i type a number etc..., In Conclusion , My condition is such that the overwhelming majority of the time when I speak or type something I have an overwhelming intrusive thought that makes me think it is a D, although I do not intend such a thing. I struggle to distinguish between thought,Wasawasa and intention, hence I end up in a lot of confusion, anxiety and sometimes depression. because I am constantly winding back what I said to check my intention. Although I know I have never wanted to issue or commit this act ever. But the thought is obsessive I am constantly stopping my self from speaking to anyone incase I say words of kinaya, when I am forced to speak , I have to really keep reminding myself of why I am saying what I say, for example if I say "bye" or the word "go" even to a colleague or my siblings, I have to fight the random overwhelming and obsessive thought that comes into my mind that keeps saying this is kinaya etc. This is because if I say the word even tho the context is clear as in , I am speaking to my colleague I still remain in doubt and this triggers my Anxiety. Another example is if i say "you okay" or "what you doing?" To anyone ,My brain starts thinking these are kinaya , i have said many things which i can't remember that may have kinaya words but i can't remember them at all. I have never said anything explicit or sareeh to my wife. It just makes it hard for me to have normal converstations as i am always analyzing each word. I am starting CBT therapy to help me overcome this with a qualified clinical psychologist. I am only young and don't want to live with this OCD for the rest of my life. My OCD does not require me to take tablets as I am not suicidal. But it is making things difficult for me in Deen. What confuses me is that i don't want to live in Zina but i am now uncertain how much impact these thoughts have had. I would like to know. These thoughts put me in doubt and  scare me. 

These thoughts come sometimes before i say anything, whilst i say something and after i say anything. I try my best to say authobillah but sometime they come just as i am about to say a word. now i am very confused at wether i am actually intending these things or isit just Waswas. I have no want or desire to seperate from my wife. nor has there been any context as such. My OCD is making think that i will be doing Zina if i am with my wife. 

will these thoughts and the words I say whilst these these thoughts come into my mind,impact my nikkah?

 

2.) What is the islamic teaching on such Thoughts? 

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Respected Brother,

We sympathise with your condition. We are pleased to hear that you have begun treatment by a qualified professional. Such treatment has proven effective. May Almighty Allah grant you complete Shifaa. Aameen.

These thoughts that occur to you are mere whisperings of Shaytaan. He is trying to make your Deen difficult for you. Remember, his purpose is to mislead and deceive the true believing slaves of Almighty Allah.

Almighty Allah does not take one to task for the involuntary thoughts that come across his mind. Infact, in your situation, you will be rewarded for striving against such thoughts.

Nevertheless, hereunder is a practical method which, once implemented, will provide certainty that these thoughts have nothing to do with Talaq and you do not wish to divorce your wife.

You should appoint two witnesses and testify in their presence that you have no desire to divorce your wife. You should state that these OCD thoughts are involuntary and hence are of no consequence to your Nikah. Once this testimony is made in their presence, you should have peace of mind that Talaq cannot occur as you have already testified against your OCD.[1]

Thereafter, you should constantly remind yourself that your unimpeded self has clearly stated (in the presence of two witnesses) there is no desire for Talaq. Therefore, your thoughts cannot have any effect on your Nikah.

We make Dua Almighty Allah create ease in your matter. Aameen.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Bilal Yusuf Pandor

Student Darul Iftaa

Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai

 


الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (3/ 244) [1]

باب طلاق المدهوش

 وَلَا يُنَافِيهِ تَعْرِيفُ الدَّهَشِ بِذَهَابِ الْعَقْلِ فَإِنَّ الْجُنُونَ فُنُونٌ، وَلِذَا فَسَّرَهُ فِي الْبَحْرِ بِاخْتِلَالِ الْعَقْلِ وَأَدْخَلَ فِيهِ الْعَتَهَ وَالْبِرْسَامَ وَالْإِغْمَاءَ وَالدَّهَشَ. وَيُؤَيِّدُهُ مَا قُلْنَا قَوْلُ بَعْضِهِمْ: الْعَاقِلُ مَنْ يَسْتَقِيمُ كَلَامُهُ وَأَفْعَالُهُ إلَّا نَادِرًا، وَالْمَجْنُونُ ضِدُّهُ. وَأَيْضًا فَإِنَّ بَعْضَ الْمَجَانِينِ يَعْرِفُ مَا يَقُولُ وَيُرِيدُهُ وَيَذْكُرُ مَا يَشْهَدُ الْجَاهِلُ بِهِ بِأَنَّهُ عَاقِلٌ ثُمَّ يَظْهَرُ مِنْهُ فِي مَجْلِسِهِ مَا يُنَافِيهِ، فَإِذَا كَانَ الْمَجْنُونُ حَقِيقَةً قَدْ يَعْرِفُ مَا يَقُولُ وَيَقْصِدُهُ فَغَيْرُهُ بِالْأَوْلَى، فَاَلَّذِي يَنْبَغِي التَّعْوِيلُ عَلَيْهِ فِي الْمَدْهُوشِ وَنَحْوِهِ إنَاطَةُ الْحُكْمِ بِغَلَبَةِ الْخَلَلِ فِي أَقْوَالِهِ وَأَفْعَالِهِ الْخَارِجَةِ عَنْ عَادَتِهِ، وَكَذَا يُقَالُ فِيمَنْ اخْتَلَّ عَقْلُهُ لِكِبَرٍ أَوْ لِمَرَضٍ أَوْ لِمُصِيبَةٍ فَاجَأَتْهُ: فَمَا دَامَ فِي حَالِ غَلَبَةِ الْخَلَلِ فِي الْأَقْوَالِ وَالْأَفْعَالِ لَا تُعْتَبَرُ أَقْوَالُهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ يَعْلَمُهَا وَيُرِيدُهَا لِأَنَّ هَذِهِ الْمَعْرِفَةَ وَالْإِرَادَةَ غَيْرُ مُعْتَبَرَةٍ لِعَدَمِ حُصُولِهَا عَنْ الْإِدْرَاكِ صَحِيحٌ كَمَا لَا تُعْتَبَرُ مِنْ الصَّبِيِّ الْعَاقِلِ نَعَمْ يُشْكِلُ عَلَيْهِ مَا سَيَأْتِي فِي التَّعْلِيقِ عَنْ الْبَحْرِ. وَصَرَّحَ بِهِ فِي الْفَتْحِ وَالْخَانِيَّةِ وَغَيْرِهِمَا، وَهُوَ: لَوْ طَلَّقَ فَشَهِدَ عِنْدَهُ اثْنَانِ أَنَّك اسْتَثْنَيْت وَهُوَ غَيْرُ ذَاكِرٍ، وَإِنْ كَانَ بِحَيْثُ إذَا غَضِبَ لَا يَدْرِي مَا يَقُولُ وَسِعَهُ الْأَخْذُ بِشَهَادَتِهِمَا وَإِلَّا لَا اهـ مُقْتَضَاهُ أَنَّهُ إذَا كَانَ لَا يَدْرِي مَا يَقُولُ يَقَعُ طَلَاقُهُ وَإِلَّا فَلَا حَاجَةَ إلَى الْأَخْذِ بِقَوْلِهِمَا إنَّك اسْتَثْنَيْت، وَهَذَا مُشْكِلٌ جِدًّا، وَإِلَّا أَنْ يُجَابَ بِأَنَّ الْمُرَادَ بِكَوْنِهِ لَا يَدْرِي مَا يَقُولُ أَنَّهُ لِقُوَّةِ غَضَبِهِ قَدْ يَنْسَى مَا يَقُولُ وَلَا يَتَذَكَّرُهُ بَعْدُ، وَلَيْسَ الْمُرَادُ أَنَّهُ صَارَ يَجْرِي عَلَى لِسَانِهِ مَا لَا يَفْهَمُهُ أَوْ لَا يَقْصِدُهُ إذْ لَا شَكَّ أَنَّهُ حِينَئِذٍ يَكُونُ فِي أَعْلَى مَرَاتِبِ الْجُنُونِ، وَيُؤَيِّدُهُ هَذَا الْحَمْلُ أَنَّهُ فِي هَذَا الْفَرْعِ عَالِمٌ بِأَنَّهُ طَلَّقَ وَهُوَ قَاصِدٌ لَهُ، لَكِنَّهُ لَمْ يَتَذَكَّرْ الِاسْتِثْنَاءَ لِشِدَّةِ غَضَبِهِ، هَذَا مَا ظَهَرَ لِي فِي تَحْرِيرِ هَذَا الْمَقَامِ، وَاَللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِحَقِيقَةِ الْمَرَامِ ثُمَّ رَأَيْت مَا يُؤَيِّدُ ذَلِكَ الْجَوَابَ، وَهُوَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فِي الْوَلْوَالِجيَّةِ: إنْ كَانَ بِحَالٍ لَوْ غَضِبَ يَجْرِي عَلَى لِسَانِهِ مَا لَا يَحْفَظُهُ بَعْدَهُ جَازَ لَهُ الِاعْتِمَادُ عَلَى قَوْلِ الشَّاهِدَيْنِ، فَقَوْلُهُ لَا يَحْفَظُهُ بَعْدَهُ صَرِيحٌ فِيمَا قُلْنَا وَاَللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ.    

 

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