Fatwa: # 45578
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
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Date: 16th September 2020

Title

Secret marriage and abortion query

Question

ASSALAM WALEKUM

My husband did an abortion on me without telling me! Not once but 2 times. We are in nikkah but our parents don't know we married.  He made me made me swallow pills without telling me they were for abortion.  And within 1 hour both times i started to bleed and i realized it was because of him and not a natural miscarriage.  What is the gunnah for him? How can he ask for forgiveness from Allah and even from me because he has hurt me so much by doing this. Also when i was bleeding some tissues came out that were the baby parts. I kept those baby parts/tissues from my body. Do i have to burry  it? I was 6 and 8 weeks pregnant.  Also i heard of blood money that has to be paid. Can you give me more information on this and my situation for it. JazzakAllah

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

 

We take note of your distress and anxiety. May Allah Ta’ala grant you courage to overcome your challenge. Ameen.

 

There are two parts to your query:

  • Your marriage to your husband without informing your parents.
  • Your husband causing you to have an abortion without your permission or acceptance.
  • Keeping the parts of the fetus.

 

1.      It was morally incorrect for you to marry without the consent and blessings of your parents. We advise you to bring the courage and inform your parents about your secret marriage. It will be natural for them to be upset. You should humble yourself and seek their forgiveness.

 

 

2.      Allah Ta’ala Himself takes responsibility of the preservation of life. Rights pertaining to the inception and extermination of life are rights reserved only for Allah. Allah states:

 

 

 

وَمَا كَانَ لِنَفْسٍ أَنْ تَمُوتَ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ اللَّهِ كِتَابًا مُؤَجَّلً

Translation: And it is not [possible] for one to die except by permission of Allah at a decree determined.

(Al-Imran, 147)

 

In principle, life only comes into the fetus after 120 days. Accordingly, if one aborts a fetus before 120 days, the abortion will not be tantamount to taking a life.

 

In the enquired situation, the abortions were done at 6 weeks and 8 weeks. In both instances the abortion took place before 120 days. Accordingly, your husband did not take a life. However, he has committed a major crime. He must make sincere Tawbah and give Sadaqah as an atonement for his sin.

 

Perhaps the underlying reason for your husband’s action was his fear of exposing his marriage to his parents and fathering a child without any financial support.

 

You should inform your husband that you will be informing your parents of the marriage and he too should inform his parents. Also inform him that you wish to lead a normal marital life with all obligations and responsibilities. He should consider the issue carefully if he wishes to continue the marriage.

 

3.      We advise you to bury the parts of the fetus that you have kept.  It may be difficult for you to detach yourself from the parts, however, Allah Ta’ala will be pleased with your action.

 

May Allah Ta’ala provide you with the strength, piety and positivity needed for you to overcome this hurdle. Ameen

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mohamed Ebrahim bin Ismail Abdullah

Student - Darul Iftaa

Pietermaritzburg, KZN, South Africa 

Checked and Approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 

26-01-1442|15-09-2020

 

دار الكتب العلمية، بيروت – لبنان المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني- (5/ 374) 

 إن أرادت ذلك بعد مضي مدة ينفخ فيه الروح، فليس لها ذلك؛ لأنها تصير قاتلة؛ فإنه اعتبر هنا على غلبة الظاهر، فلا يحل لها كما بعد الانفصال،

 

 

الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) دار الفكر-بيروت (3/ 176) 

(قوله وقالوا إلخ) قال في النهر: بقي هل يباح الإسقاط بعد الحمل؟ نعم يباح ما لم يتخلق منه شيء ولن يكون ذلك إلا بعد مائة وعشرين يوما

 

المحيط البرهاني (٨٣/٨)

ان ارادت ذلك بعد مضي مدة ينفخ فيه الروح لأنها تصير قاتلة فانه اعتبر حيا علي ما عليه الظاهر فلا يحل لها ذلك كما بعد الانفصال

 

فتاوي قاضي خان (٣١٢/٣)

ان لم يستبن شيء من خلقه لا تأثم قال (رضي الله عنه) ولا أقول به فان المحرم اذا كسر بيض الصيد يكون ضامنا لأنه اصل الصيد فلما كان مؤاخذا بالجزاء ثمة فلا اقل من ان يلحقها اثم ههنا اذا اسقطت من غير عذر الا انها لا تأثم اثم القتل

 

شرح كتاب تحفة الملوك (١٩١٧-١٩١٨/٢)

ويباح للمرأة اسقاط الولد بالعلاج ما لم يستبن شيء من خلقه...وفي القنية: عن ابي الفضل الكرماني وعين الائمة الكرابيسي: تاثم باسقاط السقط قبل ان يصور حرة: كانت او امة ... والاصح هو المنع

 

فتاوی قاسمیہ جلد 23 صفحہ 280

الجواب وباللّٰہ التوفیق: حمل کا گرانا بلا عذر شدید کے جائز نہیں ہے، چاہے حمل حلال نطفہ سے ہو یا بدکاری کے حرام نطفہ کا ہو، دونوں صورتوں میں جائز نہیں ہے، ہاں البتہ اگر عورت کی جان کا خطرہ ہے یا دودھ پیتے بچے کو نقصان پہنچنے کا خطرہ ہے تو حمل پر ۱۲۰؍ دن گذرنے سے پہلے پہلے انتہائی مجبوری کی وجہ سے گرانے کی گنجائش ہے، اور ۱۲۰؍ دن گذرنے کے بعد شدید مجبوری کے باوجود بھی جائز نہیں ہے، اور ناجائز حمل کا اسقاط کرنے والا ڈاکٹر اور کروانے والے دونوں گنہگار ہوں گے۔

 

 

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