Fatwa: # 42192
Category: Beliefs and Practices (Aq...
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Date: 2nd April 2019

Title

My Parents force me to miss Salaah

Question

My parents are forcing me to miss Salah for Education. Is it correct!

I am admitted to a college where I am not allowed to pray salah. I am missing Asr and Maghrib Salah every day. On complaining this to my parents they are not listening to me and forcing me to go to the same college.

I am not allowed to pray at my college or go out of the college.

I am being forced to miss Asr and Maghrib Salah every day. Every day I am praying Asr and Maghrib Salah at night after Isha Salah as Qaza Salah.

Is it correct that I miss Salah for Education?

Should I obey my parents?

They are blackmailing me emotionally.

Should I disobey them or obey them?

Should I change my college?

Please, give me a direct answer.

Thank you.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Muhtaram Brother,

We take note of the contents of your email. We are delighted to hear about your enthusiasm, love, and concern for Salaah.

If what you have stated reflects the reality of the situation, then your parent’s conduct is unfortunate and Un-Islamic.

Shariah emphasizes the importance of respecting one’s parents. Always show respect to one’s parents. Do not let your religiousness affect your relationship with your parents.

Allah Taalah says:

و وصينا الانسان بوالديه احسانا 

Translation: “And we have enjoined upon Mankind showing compassion to parents”

(Surah Al- Ankaboot, Verse 8)

 

However, one cannot obey a creation while disobeying Allah. Your parents want you to do anything Un-Islamic, you cannot obey them.  [1]

It is mentioned in a Hadeeth:

لَا طَاعَةَ لِمَخْلُوقٍ فِي مَعْصِيَةِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ

Translation: “There is no obedience to creation in the disobedience to Allah.”

(Musnad Ahmad)

You state your parents are not listening to you and forcing you to attend that college which is causing you to miss Salaah. It is not permissible to miss Salaah due to education. Your parents’ attitude is unfortunate; you cannot obey your parents while disobeying Allah. The right of Allah precedes the right of parents.

It is apparent that your parents want you to study. Assure them that you will continue your studies in another college where you can perform your Salaah timeously. If you abandon your studies, your parents will get more upset with you and hate Islam and Salaah.

Explain to your parents the importance of obeying the dictates of the Shariah.

Obtain some booklets on the virtues and importance of performing Salaah and keep them within close range of your parents. Try to have home Taaleem on the virtues and severe warnings of discarding Salaah. Employ wisdom when dealing with your parents.

You should try to win over your parents’ hearts through serving them.  Treat them with love, kindness and see to their needs. This will soften their hearts and change their mind set eventually.

You may also discuss the issue with some responsible person in the family, perhaps an elderly reputable person or an Aalim to communicate and influence your parents on neglecting Salaah.

Du’aa is the weapon of a believer. Perform Salaat-ul-Haajah and implore Allah Ta’ala to alleviate you from the predicament you are faced with. May Allah Ta’ala change the condition of your parents to be in accordance with the dictates of the Shariah. Aameen. 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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[1] صحيح البخاري (4/ 49) 

عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قَالَ: «السَّمْعُ [ص:50] وَالطَّاعَةُ حَقٌّ مَا لَمْ يُؤْمَرْ بِالْمَعْصِيَةِ، فَإِذَا أُمِرَ بِمَعْصِيَةٍ، فَلاَ سَمْعَ وَلاَ طَاعَةَ»

 

سنن الترمذي ت بشار (3/ 261)

 عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: السَّمْعُ وَالطَّاعَةُ عَلَى الْمَرْءِ الْمُسْلِمِ فِيمَا أَحَبَّ وَكَرِهَ مَا لَمْ يُؤْمَرْ بِمَعْصِيَةٍ، فَإِنْ أُمِرَ بِمَعْصِيَةٍ فَلاَ سَمْعَ عَلَيْهِ وَلاَ طَاعَ

 

وأخرجه الطبراني في "الكبير" 18/ (433) من طريق سلمة بن علقمة، والقضاعي في "مسند الشهاب" (873) من طريق حماد بن يحيى، كلاهما عن ابن سيرين، عن عمران وحده، قال: قال رسول الله صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: "لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الله"

 

سنن أبي داود ت الأرنؤوط (4/ 265)

 حدَّثنا عَمرو بن مَرزُوقِ، أخبرنا شعبةُ، عن زُبَيدٍ، عن سَعد بن عُبيدةَ، عن أبي عبدِ الرحمن السُّلَميِّ

عن علي: أن رسولَ الله -صلَّى الله عليه وسلم- بَعَثَ جيشاً وأَمَّرَ عليهم رجلاً، وأمَرَهُم أن يَسمَعُوا له ويُطيعوا، فأجَّجَ ناراً وأمَرَهُم أن يَقتحِمُوا فيها، فأبَى قومٌ أن يدخُلُوها، وقالوا: إنما فَرَرْنا من النار، وأراد قومٌ أن يدخُلُوها، فبلغ ذلك النبيَّ -صلَّى الله عليه وسلم- فقال: "لَو دخلُوها -أو دخَلُوا فيها- لم يزالُوا فيها".

وقال: " لا طاعةَ في معصيةِ اللهِ، إنما الطاعةُ في المعروفِ

 

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