Fatwa: # 42170
Category: Child Upbringing (Tarbiyyah)
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Date: 7th April 2019

Title

My husband sends my child to a Catholic School

Question

Assalamoalaikum Please keep hidden following details. I get scary thoughts if you do this and this will amount to loose imaan and i do not agree with those thoughts and keep saying never ever bad intention regarding loosing imaan. No matter what happens i never ever want to loose imaan never ever. And thoughts were coming regarding marrying or being in marriage with non muslim. Then the thoughts come if your husband become non muslim or anyone you may marry in future become non muslim. I said i never ever have bad intention regarding loosing my imaan and i love my imaan and why would i marry with a person who is non muslim and then next thought came if my husband become non muslim ( nauzobillah) . I thought even he become one ( nauzobillah) why would i put my iman on this condition on his act astagfirullah. He will himself be answerable. And how would i know as Allah Ta’ala knows what’s in everyone’s hearts. He may be more closer to Allah Ta’ala than me. My son goes to catholic school despite the fact that i am against it but my husband wanted to send him there. They do their religious studies and take him to church. Then more bad thoughts come that if your child goes to church etc in future to attend wedding or else ( nauzobillah) it will amount to loose imaan . I keep saying never ever bad intention of loosing imaan whatever happens in future etc. Also i will never like it and never want him to go to church etc astagfirullah but if he goes astagfirullah then he will be sinful and why should I put my imaan on any of that condition. Also no one knows what will happen in future etc. Also at the moment my son goes to catholic school and i hate it absolutely hate it but my husband doesn’t support me in this. So whether he goes to that school or not i have no bad intention regarding loosing imaan and also do not like that fact he is studying there and they take him to church every tuesday i think and do their religious studies. Its beyond my control as my husband gets severely angry over the topic of changing school. Obviously i would never want my family or any muslim to loose imaan but also do not want to put my imaan on risk that if such and such happens will affect imaan( No way cause i love my imaan Alhamdulillah) i do not want to put my imaan on any condition or on anything. No matter what i never have any bad intention regarding loosing imaan and love my religion islam Alhamdulillah. I keep getting confused thoughts if not this then that. May Allah Ta’ala protect mine and everyone’s imaan Ameen 1. Looking at above circumstances is my iman intact? 2. And is there any dua i can make to chnage my son’s school to muslim school JazakAllah khair

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

You refer to two issues in your query:

(1) Severe waswasa

(2) Changing your son’s school

 

(1) Sister, your Imaan is intact. In fact, the thoughts you possess shows the strength of your Imaan. We advise you not to ponder and build on these thoughts and scenarios, as you will be aiding the Shaytaan in fulfilling his mission. Do not allow the whispers of Shaytaan to intimidate you.

Shaytaan being our enemy will employ different tactics to accomplish his mission of misleading us and making us lose our Imaan (faith).

Constantly recite the undermentioned supplications/duas :

 

رَبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَنْ يَحْضُرُونِ

Translation: O Allah! I seek your protection from the evil whisperings of the Shaytaan, and, O my Rabb, I seek Your protection that they (the Shaytaan) approach me (because they always approach with evil).’”

(Surah Al-Mu’minoon, Verses 97-98)

 

لا حول ولا قوة الا بالله

Translation: There is no power to neither do any good nor prevent any evil except in Allah

(2) We commend you on your sensitivity of changing your son’s school. This stems from your consciousness of Imaan. Your attitude is praiseworthy.

As Muslims, we are sensitive to our Aqaaid (beliefs) and Tauheed (Oneness of Allah) and abstain from whatever would contaminate our Imaan.

As parents, it is our responsibility to nurture our children with the dictates of Shariah.

You state your husband gets angry and is not willing to change your son’s school. His attitude is unfortunate.

You may express your sentiments to an elderly reputable person who may enjoy some influence over your husband and thus explain to him the harms of sending your child to a catholic school.

As the parent, you are the primary example to your child of what being a Muslim means.

You should inculcate in your child Imaan and values of Imaan. He should love and understand Imaan. He will then be able to practice on the dictates of Imaan.

A parent’s du’a for his child is definitely answered. Put your trust in Allah and seek strength from him. Du’aa is the weapon of a believer. Read Salaahtul Haajah and implore Allah Ta’ala to change the temperament of your husband and change his mind.

The following du’as from the Quraan for our children are effective:

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

Translation: Oh our Rabb! Grant us the coolness (comfort) of our eyes (grant us pleasure and satisfaction) from our spouses and children (so that they never become a source of regret or distress for us in either world when they follow Islam properly), and make us Imaams (guides) of the pious (make our progeny pious and make us pious enough to guide pious people.)

(Sūrah Al- Furqaan, Aayah 74)

رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِنْ ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُسْلِمَةً لَكَ وَأَرِنَا مَنَاسِكَنَا وَتُبْ عَلَيْنَا إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيمُ

Translation: Our Lord! Make us both submissive to you and (raise) from our offspring a nation submitting to you, and show us our ways of devotion and turn to us (mercifully), surely you are the Oft-returning (to mercy), the Merciful.

(Sūrah Al-Baqarah, Aayah 128)

May Allah Ta’ala ease your pain and suffering and alleviate the predicament you are faced with. Aameen

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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