Fatwa: # 41770
Category: Divorce (Talaaq)
Country: United States
Date: 17th January 2019


I want to divorce you! Will that constitute a divorce?


Assalamalaikum. I desperately need your help regarding my divorce. On 21st November 2018 we had a baby and on 29th November 2018 my husband divorced me by saying "i want to divorce you" three times. I told him his words don't constitute divorce but he did not change his words and left. He had brought his brothers as two witnesses. I was still impure from the csection delivery I had. Since then I am staying with my family and they have been trying to reconcile with him. Now my husband is willing to reconcile but we dont know if it is possible. My husband says even though he said "i want to divorce you" he had the intention of divorce and is from Hanafi school of thought which believes in 3 divorces in one sitting. Can you please tell us if the divorce happened and how can we reconcile? JazakAllah.


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

We sympathize with you in your predicament. Your husbands’ attitude is unfortunate.

The statement “I want to divorce you” constitutes a promise and a threat to divorce. A promise of divorce is not considered a talaaq (divorce) in Shariah. Accordingly, your nikaah is intact. [1]

While your husband’s threat of divorce to you is unfortunate, you too should avoid circumstances leading to such threats.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1] الفتاوى الهندية - ط. دار الفكر (1/ 355) 

وَلَوْ قال لها أَطْلَقْتُك إنْ نَوَى بِهِ الطَّلَاقَ يَقَعُ وَإِلَّا فَلَا كَذَا في فَتَاوَى قَاضِي خَانْ وَلَوْ قال أَنْتِ مُطْلَقَةٌ أو يا مُطْلَقَةُ بِتَسْكِينِ الطَّاءِ وَالتَّخْفِيفِ لَا يَكُونُ طَلَاقًا إلَّا بِالنِّيَّةِ كَذَا في السِّرَاجِ الْوَهَّاجِ


 (1/ 384)

في الْمُحِيطِ لو قال بِالْعَرَبِيَّةِ أُطَلِّقُ لَا يَكُونُ طَلَاقًا إلَّا إذَا غَلَبَ اسْتِعْمَالُهُ لِلْحَالِ فَيَكُونُ طَلَاقًا وفي إيمَانِ مَجْمُوعِ النَّوَازِلِ سُئِلَ نَجْمُ الدِّينِ عن امْرَأَةٍ قالت لِزَوْجِهَا من بِرّ تَوّ سَهِّ طَلَاقه أَمْ فقال الزَّوْجُ هَلَّا هل تَطْلُقُ ثَلَاثًا قال لَا إلَّا أَنْ يَنْوِيَهَا وَلَوْ قالت لِزَوْجِهَا حَلَال خَدًّا بِرّ توحرام فقال آرِيّ حُرِّمَتْ عليه بِتَطْلِيقَةٍ سُئِلَ نَجْمُ الدِّينِ عن رَجُلٍ قال لِامْرَأَتِهِ اذْهَبِي إلَى بَيْتِ أُمِّك فقالت طَلَاق دَهٍ تابروم فقال تَوّ بَرْو من طَلَاقِ دُمَادِم فَرُسْتُمُ قال لَا تَطْلُقُ لِأَنَّهُ وَعْدٌ كَذَا في الْخُلَاصَةِ


الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (3/ 297)

(قوله قضاء) قيد به لأنه لا يقع ديانة بدون النية، ولو وجدت دلالة الحال فوقوعه بواحد من النية أو دلالة الحال إنما هو في القضاء فقط كما هو صريح البحر وغيره


المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (3/ 472)

وبالعربية قوله: أطلق، لا يكون طلاقاً في أنه دائر بين الحال والاستقبال فلم يكن تحقيقاً مع الشك حتى أن موضع علمت استعماله للحال كان تحقيقاً


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اور شوہر کا یہ قول کہ میں تجھے ضرور طلاق دے دوں گا حسب تفسیر فقہاء مذاکرہ طلاق نہیں ہے ۔ کیونکہ لفظ استقبال سے طلاق واقع نہیں ہوتی اور وہ لغو ہوتا ہے ۔

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