Fatwa: # 41524
Category: Beliefs and Practices (Aq...
Country: Pakistan
Date: 18th January 2019


Avoiding problematic relatives


Assalamualaikum! My question is breaking relationship with relatuvre is Haram but there are some relatives in my family they just love to spoil other people life's tgey always do conspiracy and want to break our home our relationship with our father by makein him against us and this hurt my mother and her condition doesn't stay well because of them so we like to stay away from them , are we allowed to stay away from them because they are very harmful


In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

Brother in Islaam,

Shari’ah has emphasized on maintaining ties of kinship. Allaah Ta’aala says,

واعبدوا الله ولا تشركوا به شيئا وبالوالدين إحسانا وبذي القربى واليتامى والمساكين والجارذي القربى والجار الجنب والصاحب بالجنب وابن السبيل وما ملكت أيمانكم

Translation: (O believers!) You shall worship Allaah alone. And you shall not associate anything with Him. And to your parents you shall be good, as well as to close relatives and orphans and the indigent; and also to the neighbor who is near, and to the neighbor who is distant; and to the companion by your side, and to the wayfarer; and to those whom your hands rightfully possess. (An-Nisaa v.36)

واتقوا الله الذي تساءلون به والأرحام

Translation: So fear Allaah, in whose name you ask (consideration) of one another. And, therefore, be dutiful to kindred. (An-Nisaa v.1)

Rasulullaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said,

ومن كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر، فليصل رحمه[1]

Translation: “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him be dutiful to his kindred.” (Bukhaari 6138)

Nevertheless, if what you have stated is the reality of the situation, then the conduct and attitude of your relatives is unfortunately incorrect and sinful.  If you limited your interaction with them to avoid further problems, that will not be breaking family ties[2]. It will be an act of caution; hence, permissible. However, the Shari’ah has emphasized on maintaining family ties[3] while you exercise caution in your interaction with them. Do not completely break your ties with them[4].

And Allaah Ta’aala Knows Best.

Muajul I. Chowdhury

Student, Darul Iftaa

Astoria, New York, USA

Checked and Approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1]  صحيح البخاري (8/ 32)

6138 - حدثنا عبد الله بن محمد، حدثنا هشام، أخبرنا معمر، عن الزهري، عن أبي سلمة، عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: «من كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر فليكرم ضيفه، ومن كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر فليصل رحمه، ومن كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر فليقل خيرا أو ليصمت»


[2]  بذل المجهود (13/319)

ومن خاف من مكالمة أحد وصلته ما يفسد عليه الدين أو يدخل مضرة في دنياه يجوز له مجانبته والبعد عنه ورب هجر حسن خير من مخالطة مؤذية 


[3]  مرقاة المفاتيح شرح مشكاة المصابيح (7/ 3079)

وصلة الرحم كناية عن الإحسان إلى الأقربين من ذوي النسب والأصهار، والتعطف عليهم، والرفق بهم، والرعاية لأحوالهم


[4]  قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: ليس الواصل بالمكافئ، ولكن الواصل الذي إذا قطعت رحمه وصلها. رواه البخاري

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