Category: Character, Morals (Akhlaaq)
Fatwa#: 40865
Asked Country: United Kingdom

Answered Date: Aug 03,2018

Title: I can’t see any changes in my life, need advice

Question

Salam, I am very bad person or I was a bad person, I am not sure, I do pray and ask for forgiveness every day, but unfortunately I have done really bad things in past which I am not proud of it, but Allah is already punishing me, I have lost everything, money sukoon everything, I became a just a big lair and my life is just a big lie, I can't see any hope in front of me, my mother prays for me my family prays for me i pray, but can't see any changes, anything I touch became send I am losing my mind, I have no peace no life at the moment, my kids my wife all are on edge of leaving me, please I need advice what to do, I am debts people after me for money I got nothing and have no hope for getting from anywhere


Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Rasulullah Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wa Sallam said:

 

كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاءٌ وَخَيْرُ الْخَطَّائِينَ التَّوَّابُونَ.

 

Translation: All of the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent. [1]

 

Brother you confess your wrong. That is a positive sign. Once a person acknowledges his faults, that is a stepping stone for his change and reformation. Do not lose hope. Be positive. [2]

 

Allah gave hidayat to many sinful people who became Awliya of the time. Once you have realised your wrong, now focus on change and reformation. Identify a pious person and stay in his company.

 

Refer to the following links and listen to the discourse of Qaseedah Burdah of our beloved teacher Mufti Ebrahim Desai Saheb (Damat Barakātuhu) for reformation purposes.

 

https://daruliftaa.net/qaseeda-burdah/

 

http://tasawwuf.daralmahmood.org/i-tikaaf-2015.html

 

You state, “I am in debts, people after me for money

 

You have so many blessings of Allah that others don’t have. Use what Allah has given you to restart your life afresh. Take the necessary steps to get out of debt. Use all permissible means available to you to seek out new opportunities.

 

May Allah Ta’āla remove all your difficulties and grant you happiness in this life and the hereafter. Ameen.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Rabiul Islam

Student Darul Iftaa
Detroit, Michigan, USA 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



[1]  سنن الترمذي ت بشار (4/ 240 م: دار الغرب الإسلامي - بيروت) محمد بن عيسى بن سَوْرة بن موسى بن الضحاك، الترمذي، أبو عيسى (المتوفى: 279هـ)

 

35 - أَبْوَابُ صِفَةِ الْقِيَامَةِ وَالرَّقَائِقِ وَالْوَرَعِ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ. 49 – بَابٌ:

 

2499 - حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا زَيْدُ بْنُ حُبَابٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ مَسْعَدَةَ البَاهِلِيُّ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا قَتَادَةُ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: كُلُّ ابْنِ آدَمَ خَطَّاءٌ وَخَيْرُ الخَطَّائِينَ التَّوَّابُونَ.

هَذَا حَدِيثٌ غَرِيبٌ، لاَ نَعْرِفُهُ إِلاَّ مِنْ حَدِيثِ عَلِيِّ بْنِ مَسْعَدَةَ عَنْ قَتَادَةَ.

 

سنن ابن ماجه (2/ 1420 م: دار إحياء الكتب العربية - فيصل عيسى البابي الحلبي) ابن ماجة أبو عبد الله محمد بن يزيد القزويني، وماجة اسم أبيه يزيد (المتوفى: 273هـ)

 

(37) كِتَابُ الزُّهْدِ. (30) بَابُ ذِكْرِ التَّوْبَةِ: برقم الحديث 4251

 

سنن الدارمي (3/ 1793 م: دار المغني للنشر والتوزيع، المملكة العربية السعودية) أبو محمد عبد الله بن عبد الرحمن بن الفضل بن بَهرام بن عبد الصمد الدارمي، التميمي السمرقندي (المتوفى: 255هـ)

 

20 - وَمِنْ كِتَابِ الرِّقَاقِ. (بَابُ: فِي التَّوْبَةِ): برقم الحديث 2769

[تعليق المحقق] إسناده حسن.

 

المستدرك على الصحيحين للحاكم (4/ 272 م: دار الكتب العلمية - بيروت) أبو عبد الله الحاكم محمد بن عبد الله بن محمد بن حمدويه بن نُعيم بن الحكم الضبي الطهماني النيسابوري المعروف بابن البيع (المتوفى: 405هـ)

 

كِتَابُ التَّوْبَةِ وَالْإِنَابَةِ:

7617 --- عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاءٌ وَخَيْرُ الْخَطَّائِينَ التَّوَّابُونَ» هَذَا حَدِيثٌ صَحِيحُ الْإِسْنَادِ وَلَمْ يُخَرِّجَاهُ "

 

 

[2]  {قُلْ يَاعِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ} [الزمر: 53]

 

 

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