Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Fatwa#: 40617
Asked Country: South Africa

Answered Date: Aug 04,2018

Title: How do i bring up this issue with my wife


As Salaam ualaikum 

When I met my wife we discussed various aspects and one was the maintaining of weight. It had been going good but ever since I'd say 1 or 2 months she just does not want to control it and it is affecting me as I do not like excessive weight  How can I approach her in a good manner about this  because whatever I try to make mention it seems like I'm being insulting so I don't communicate much about certain issues


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

You may consider identifying a trustworthy family person in whom your wife has confidence. Discuss your concern with that person with the hope that your concern will be appropriately communicated to your wife.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad Yusuf bin Moulana Abdur Rahim Khan

Student Darul Iftaa
Chatsworth, Durban, KZN, South Africa 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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