Category: Basic Tenets of Faith
Fatwa#: 40520
Asked Country: Barbados

Answered Date: Aug 21,2018

Title: How do i get married?

Question

As salaam u alikum;

Respected Mufti sahib

I WOULD APPRECIATE IF THIS EMAIL IS KEPT CONFIDENTIAL.

Iam 23 years of age and has not been married nor have i received any proposals that i know of yet. Idon't know if my parents have received any but it wasn't suitable to them therefore they didn't inform me.

Th issue is that more than a year ago i expessd my need to be married and since i have been constantly asking them for follow up ,but nothing has changed other than that i no longer have confidence in the relationship with them cause i feel like they are not taking my life situation serious enough.

Alhamdulillah Iwas bought up in a pretty strick deeni envionment so love marriage was not even considerd as an option for me and due to being able to study deen i am aware that my situation is causing me to wrong myself (in thoughts).

AMi wrong to tell them that if they don't actively help me find a suitable husband they would have to answer to allah for this.

Cause I am finding it very difficult to focus on my relationship with allah and in my ebaadaat.

Ialso know that i am commiting sins through my thoughts.

I DON'T KNOW IF THY UNDERSTSND ME OR NOT .(i don't think  i told them straight out the reason i want to marry.)oR it is just that they don't want to accept the reality.

PLEASE advice m on what i should do .

Please make duaa allah help me find a suitable husband .

is there any any wazeefa that i can do that shall help me in my situation.

Jazakallah for ur time and advice .

would be much appreciated 

WAS SALAAM.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

We take note of the contents of your email and your feeling of depression.

We make Dua to Allah to grant you courage to overcome your difficulty.

We are living in this world of means. When searching for anything, one adopts appropriate means to acquire it. Marriage is one of the most important aspects of one’s life. You should also adopt means and seek counsel from appropriate people in searching for a suitable husband.

You may discuss the issue with some responsible person in the family, perhaps an elderly reputable person to communicate and influence your parents to get you married.
Apart from adopting the means, the following duas are effective. Allah will put barakah in the means you adopt and guide you to the right spouse. [i]

لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ

 

Translation: ‘There is none worthy of worship except You, Glory to You; Indeed, I have been of the transgressors.

 

This is the supplication of Dhun-Nun (Prophet Yunus Alaihis Salaam) while he was in the belly of the whale.

Rasullullah ﷺ said:

فَإِنَّهُ لَمْ يَدْعُ بِهَا رَجُلٌ مُسْلِمٌ فِي شَيْءٍ قَطُّ إِلاَّ اسْتَجَابَ اللَّهُ لَهُ ‏"

So indeed, no Muslim man supplicates with it for anything, ever, except Allah responds to him.”

 (Jamiut-Tirmidhi)

 

 

ربي اني لما انزلت الي من خير فقير

Transliteration: “Inni Lima anzalta illayye min khairin faqeer”

 

Translation: “Indeed I am in need of goodness”

(Surah Al-Qasas, Verse 24)

This is the supplication of Moosa (Alayhis Salaam), which he read while he was a traveller and desperate for his basic needs.

 

"‏ اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً، وَفِي الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً، وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ ‏"‏‏

Translation: "O Allah! Give to us in the world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good, and save us from the torment of the Fire."

(Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Al-Muslim)

We make dua to Allah to grant you a suitable and compatible spouse. Aameen.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 


[i]  Khawaateen Ke Masaa'il Aur Unka Hal- (Mufti Yusuf Ludhyanwi Rahimahullah)

 

  Mustanad Majmoo'aah Wadhaaif- (Mufti Nidhaamud Deen Shamzi Rahimahullah)

 

 

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