Category: Marriage & Divorce
Fatwa#: 40368
Asked Country: United Kingdom

Answered Date: Oct 16,2018

Title: What are the Sunnats of a Nikah/Wedding?

Question

Assalamualykum, Quite a short question but what are all the Sunnah step by step from start to finish in the marriage/ wedding process?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

As-salaamu `alaykum wa-ramatullahi wa-barakatuh.

Rasulullah ﷺ said;

النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِي

سنن ابن ماجه (1/ 592)

Translation: “Nikaah is my Sunnat”. (Sunan Ibni Majah. Vol 1,Pg 592)

  1. The purpose of Nikaah is to preserve ones chastity and to get closer to Allah.[1]
  2. The Nikaah should be performed in a Masjid. Rasulullah ﷺ said;

أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ، وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ

سنن الترمذي ت بشار (2/ 390)

Translation: “Announce this Nikaah and perform it in the masaajid” (Sunan Tirmidhi, Vol 2, Pg 390)

  1. It is Sunnah to have a walima after consummating the Nikaah.[2]

Rasulullah ﷺ said;

أولم ولو بشاة

صحيح البخاري (7/ 21)

Translation: “Have a walima, even if it may with a sheep”. (According to ones means)

(Saheeh Bukhari. Vol 7, Pg 21)

  1. The spouses should fulfil each other’s rights.

Rasulullah ﷺ mentioned;

لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ النِّسَاءَ أَنْ يَسْجُدْنَ لِأَزْوَاجِهِنَّ لِمَا جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لَهُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنَ الْحَقِّ

سنن أبي داود (2/ 244)

Translation: “If I was to command anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wives to prostrate before their husbands due to the rights of the husband that Allah has placed over them”.

(Sunan Abi Dawood. Vol 2, Pg 244)

 

Another Hadith mentions;

إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ، فَلَمْ تَأْتِهِ فَبَاتَ غَضْبَانَ عَلَيْهَا، لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ

سنن أبي داود (2/ 244)

Translation: “When a husband calls his wife to have conjugal relations with her and she refuses, the angles curse her till the break of dawn”.

(Sunan Abi Dawood. Vol 2. Pg 244)

Rasulullah ﷺ advised us regarding women;

فاستوصوا بالنساء خيرا

صحيح البخاري (7/ 26)

Translation: “Act kindly towards women”

(Saheeh Bukhari. Vol 7. Pg 26)

خِيَارُكُمْ خِيَارُكُمْ لِنِسَائِهِمْ

سنن ابن ماجه ت الأرنؤوط (3/ 148)

“The best amongst you are the ones who are best (in conduct) with their wives” (Sunan Ibni Majah. Vol 3. Pg 148)

And Allah Ta`ala Knows Best.

Hussein Muhammad.

Student Darul Iftaa

Arusha, Tanzania

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



[1]

مختصر صحيح الإمام البخاري (3/ 349)

 عَنْ عَلْقَمَةَ قَالَ: كُنْتُ مَعَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ , فَلَقِيَهُ عُثْمَانُ بِمِنُى، فَقَالَ: يَا أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ! إِنَّ لِي إِلَيْكَ حَاجَةً، فَخَلَيَا، فَقَالَ عُثْمَانُ: هَلْ لَكَ يَا أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ! فِى أَنْ نُزَوِّجَكَ بِكْرًا تُذَكِّرُكَ مَا كُنْتَ تَعْهَدُ؟ فَلَمَّا رَأَى عَبْدُ اللَّهِ أَنْ لَيْسَ لَهُ حَاجَةٌ إِلَى هَذَا؛ أَشَارَ إِلَىَّ، فَقَالَ: يَا عَلْقَمَةُ! فَانْتَهَيْتُ إِلَيْهِ وَهْوَ يَقُولُ: أَمَا لَئِنْ قُلْتَ ذَلِكَ؛ لقد [كُنَّا معَ النَّبيِّ - صلى الله عليه وسلم - شَباباً , لا نَجِدُ شَيْئاً , فـ] قَالَ لَنَا النَّبِيُّ - صلى الله عليه وسلم:

«يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ! مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ؛ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ؛ [فإنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ , وأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ] , وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ؛ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ؛ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ».

[2]

صحيح البخاري (7/ 21)

 حدثنا عبد الله بن يوسف، أخبرنا مالك، عن حميد الطويل، عن أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه: أن عبد الرحمن بن عوف، جاء إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وبه أثر صفرة، فسأله رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، فأخبره أنه تزوج امرأة من الأنصار، قال: «كم سقت إليها؟» قال: زنة نواة من ذهب، قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: «أولم ولو بشاة»

 

مختصر صحيح الإمام البخاري (3/ 375)

عنْ صَفِيَّةَ بنْتِ شَيْبَةَ قالَتْ: أَوْلَمَ النبيُّ - صلى الله عليه وسلم - عَلى بَعْضِ نِسَائِهِ بمُدَّيْنِ مِنْ شَعيرٍ.

 

 

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