Fatwa: # 39959
Category: Miscellaneous
Country: Saudi Arabia
Date: 4th May 2018


Husband watching inappropriate material to get in the mood


I am 32 years old woman with three children. Had my last child six months ago and have become fat which my husband does not like at all. A few days ago he was watching another video or something on phone to relieve stress at 1am n also masturbated to relieve himself. He does so only occasionally n also justifies such things as permissible as he does so just to get into the mood n then come to me. Inspite of me warning him he continues. I don't like this n feel disgusted when he touches me now. What should i do? With request for duas.


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The biological change of your body is due to pregnancy and birth for which your husband is also responsible. If his appearance changes due to circumstances in life, would he accept you ignoring him and satisfying yourself with images of men?

Advise your husband to fear Allah and to search for a spiritual guide. When a person is spiritually fed, his carnal desires are controlled. How would he feel if you commit the evil act and justify it? No person with a pure temperament (saleem-ut-tabaah) will justify such an evil act. [1]

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Aboobakr Siddeeq bin Mufti Amjad Mohammad

Student Darul Iftaa 

Azaadville, JHB, South Africa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1]  الاختيار لتعليل المختار - (4 / 164)

وقال عليه الصلاة والسلام : ' غض بصرك إلا عن زوجتك '

البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ـ مشكول - (22 / 133)

 والأصل أنه لا يجوز أن ينظر إلى وجه الأجنبية بشهوة

البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ـ مشكول - (22 / 141)

{ قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم }

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