Category: Miscellaneous
Fatwa#: 39613
Asked Country: India

Answered Date: Feb 04,2018

Title: Kissing One’s Children

Question

Can a Mother around 35 years age kiss her Son around 10 years age to show and create mutual affection. Similary can a father kiss his daughter.Is this just allowed or is this encouraged?  Were there any age limits until when this is permitted?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

In principle, a mother may kiss her son and a father may kiss his daughter regardless of age.

One should kiss one’s children and show love and affection toward them. Consider the following narration:

... أَنَّ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ رضى الله عنه قَالَ قَبَّلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم الْحَسَنَ بْنَ عَلِيٍّ وَعِنْدَهُ الأَقْرَعُ بْنُ حَابِسٍ التَّمِيمِيُّ جَالِسًا‏.‏ فَقَالَ الأَقْرَعُ إِنَّ لِي عَشَرَةً مِنَ الْوَلَدِ مَا قَبَّلْتُ مِنْهُمْ أَحَدًا‏.‏ فَنَظَرَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ثُمَّ قَالَ مَنْ لاَ يَرْحَمُ لاَ يُرْحَمُ.

Abu Hurayra (radhiallahu ‘anhu) narrated that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) kissed al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali while al-Aqra‘ ibn Habis al-Tamimi was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra‘ said, “I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them.” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) looked at him and said, “Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, 5997)

However, if there is any fear of immorality, it will be impermissible.[1]

 

And Allah Ta‘ālā Knows Best.

 

Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 

 



[1]

المبسوط للسرخسي (١٠/١٤٩) 

إنما يباح المس والنظر إذا كان يأمن الشهوة على نفسه وعليها

الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (٦/٣٦٧)

(وما حل نظره) مما مر من ذكر أو أنثى (حل لمسه) إذا أمن الشهوة على نفسه وعليها «لأنه - عليه الصلاة والسلام - كان يقبل رأس فاطمة»

بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (٥/١٢٠)

وكل ما جاز النظر إليه منهن من غير حائل جاز مسه

بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (٥/١٢٠)

فأما إذا كان يشتهي أو كان غالب ظنه وأكبر رأيه أنه لو نظر أو مس اشتهى لم يجز له النظر والمس لأنه يكون سببا للوقوع في الحرام فيكون حراما

المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (٥/٣٣٢)

 إنما يباح النظر إذا كان يأمن على نفسه الشهوة، فأما إذا كان يخاف على نفسه الشهوة، فلا يحل له النظر لما بينا قبل هذا، وكذلك المس إنما يباح له إذا أمن على نفسه وعليها الشهوة؛

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