Category: Miscellaneous
Fatwa#: 39246
Asked Country: United Kingdom

Answered Date: Oct 22,2017

Title: Giving gifts to your prospective wife


Assalamualykum warahmatullah

i went to see a potential spouse for marriage a couple of weeks ago, after a few days my father called the girls father and he said that the girl refused. but yesterday my dad spoke to the girls father and he said the girl would like to have another meeting. i just wanted to know that when i go and see her a second time can i take her a small gift like some chocolate or flowers? i dont have any bad intentions i just thought it would be a nice gesture, also the girls father suggested to my dad that if i gave the girl flowers or something she would like that. please let me know if this is ok.

JazakAllah Khair


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

It is not advisable for you to personally offer a gift to the girl who wishes to see you again.

However, a member of your family, for example, your mother may present gifts when meeting the family with you.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

DISCLAIMER - questions answers issues pertaining to Shar'ah. Thereafter, these questions and answers are placed for public view on for educational purposes. However, many of these answers are unique to a particular scenario and cannot be taken as a basis to establish a ruling in another situation or another environment. bears no responsibility with regards to these questions being used out of their intended context.
  • The Shar's ruling herein given is based specifically on the question posed and should be read in conjunction with the question.
  • bears no responsibility to any party who may or may not act on this answer and is being hereby exempted from loss or damage howsoever caused.
  • This answer may not be used as evidence in any Court of Law without prior written consent of
  • Any or all links provided in our emails, answers and articles are restricted to the specific material being cited. Such referencing should not be taken as an endorsement of other contents of that website.