Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Fatwa#: 38967
Asked Country: United States

Answered Date: Sep 22,2017

Title: I performed my Nikah without my sister and brother approval. Now is my Nikah valid?


As salaam alaykum, I pray that this email found you in the best if eeman and health, Aameen. I got married almost 2 years ago In Shaa Allah when I was 32 years old and it was my second marriage from which I had a daughter(Alhamdulillah 10 years old now). Both of my parents died when I was a child, I lived with my 4 siblings, 2 of whom are older. I now live abroad, everybody lives separately, my maternal aunts and uncles live back home, I have no contact with my paternal family. When I notified my family of my marriage proposal, they wanted me to wait, parts of my family wanted me to try "it" out first by being his girlfriend and if it doesn't work out to break off the relationship and my sister was dead against any sort of relationships because the man wasn't"super rich", totally ignoring his religious side. I wanted a halal relationship and was he, so I refused all their propositions and with the support of my uncle and one maternal aunt, I performed my nikah without my sister and brother approval. Now is my nikah valid? I've heard that in second marriage, one doesn't need approval from sibling, is that true? I had an uncle/family friend as a wali. Please advise. Jazzak'Allahu khayran!



In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

One does not need the approval of the siblings to marry, whether it is the first or second marriage. Your Nikah without the approval of your siblings is valid.[1]


And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Rabiul Islam

Student Darul Iftaa
Detroit, Michigan, USA 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai



[1] التجريد للقدوري (9/ 4237)

قال أبو حنيفة: إذا زوجت الحرة البالغة العاقلة نفسها بغير إذن وليها كفؤا صح عقدها.


الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (1/ 185)

النكاح ينعقد بالإيجاب والقبول بلفظين يعبر بهما عن الماضي


الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (1/ 191)

وينعقد نكاح الحرة العاقلة البالغة برضاها وإن لم يعقد عليها ولى بكرا كانت أو ثيبا عند أبي حنيفة وأبي يوسف " رحمهما الله " في ظاهر الرواية


صحيح مسلم (2/ 1037)

 حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، وَقُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، قَالَا: حَدَّثَنَا مَالِكٌ، ح وحَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، وَاللَّفْظُ لَهُ، قَالَ: قُلْتُ لِمَالِكٍ: حَدَّثَكَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ الْفَضْلِ، عَنْ نَافِعِ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «الْأَيِّمُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا، وَالْبِكْرُ تُسْتَأْذَنُ فِي نَفْسِهَا، وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا»؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ


شرح معاني الآثار (3/ 11)

 فإذا يونس قد حدثنا قال أخبرنا ابن وهب أن مالكا حدثه , عن عبد الله بن الفضل , عن نافع بن جبير بن مطعم , عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: «الأيم أحق بنفسها من وليها , والبكر تستأذن في نفسها , وإذنها صماتها»

حدثنا حسين بن نصر قال: ثنا يوسف بن عدي قال: ثنا حفص بن غياث , عن عبد الله بن عبد الله بن موهب، عن نافع بن جبير , فذكر بإسناده مثله. فبين رسول الله صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وسلم في هذا الحديث بقوله: «الأيم أحق بنفسها من وليها» أن أمرها في تزويج نفسها إليها لا إلى وليها.



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