Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings (Fiqh)
Fatwa#: 38601
Asked Country: United Kingdom

Answered Date: Dec 07,2017

Title: Do I have to inform the person I wronged about my actions?

Question

Assalamualaykum If you have wronged somebody in their past, do you have to tell them what you did or can you just ask for their forgiveness in general without naming what you did? For example, I have told lies which have hurt people's feelings but by bringing it up again and telling the truth, it will make our relationship worse and bring back bad memories. It was not lies about someone else but lies about myself. Like when I was going through a sad time in my life, I said to someone I have not eaten (when I had eaten) to make them feel sorry for me and for attention. this must've hurt them to think I am not eating. This was a few years ago and I regret it deeply but bringing this up may cause upset or distrust and I want to make my relationship with them better. I feel terrible for giving them pain with my lies. Do I have to ask them for forgiveness (is it their right?) or only ask Allah for forgivness? I am unclear if hurting someone's feelings by lieing is huqooqul ibaad or not? If I have to ask them forgivness must I specify what I did wrong or can I just say sorry for everything I have done wrong to you and please forgive me Please answer my question jazakallah

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

To speak a lie is a major sin.

In the enquired situation, you spoke a lie about yourself. You should make istighfaar for speaking lies. You have not violated anyone’s rights therefore you do not have to seek their forgiveness.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Huzaifah Deedat

 Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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صحيح البخاري- دار طوق النجاة (3/ 180)

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، عَنْ أَبِي سُهَيْلٍ نَافِعِ بْنِ مَالِكِ بْنِ أَبِي عَامِرٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ: أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: " آيَةُ المُنَافِقِ ثَلاَثٌ: إِذَا حَدَّثَ كَذَبَ، وَإِذَا اؤْتُمِنَ خَانَ، وَإِذَا وَعَدَ أَخْلَفَ

المعجم الكبير للطبراني- مكتبة ابن تيمية (9/ 96)

حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الدَّبَرِيُّ، أَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ، أَنَا مَعْمَرٌ، عَنْ أَبِي إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ أَبِي الْأَحْوَصِ، عَنِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ: " إِنَّمَا هِي اثْنَانِ الْهَدْيُ وَالْكَلَامُ، فَأَحْسَنُ الْكَلَامِ كَلَامُ اللهِ، وَأَحْسَنُ الْهَدْيِ هَدْيُ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، أَلَا وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَالْمُحْدَثَاتِ وَالْبِدَعَ، فَإِنَّ شَرَّ الْأُمُورِ مُحْدَثَاتُهَا، وَكُلَّ مُحْدَثَةٍ ضَلَالَةٌ، أَلَا لَا يَطُولَنَّ عَلَيْكُمُ الْأَمَدُ فَتَقْسُوا قُلُوبُكُمُ الْأَمَلَ، مَا هُوَ آتٍ قَرِيبٌ، أَلَا إِنَّ الْبَعِيدَ مَا لَيْسَ آتٍ، أَلَا إِنَّ الشَّقِيَّ مَنْ شَقِيَ فِي بَطْنِ أُمِّهِ وَالسَّعِيدُ مَنْ وُعِظَ بِغَيْرِهِ، وَشَرَّ الرَّوَايَا رَوَايَا الْكَذِبِ، أَلَا إِنَّ الْكَذِبَ لَا يَصْلُحُ فِي جِدٍّ، وَلَا هَزْلٍ، أَلَا أَنَّ الْكَذِبَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْفُجُورِ، وَإِنَّ الْفُجُورَ يَهْدِي إِلَى النَّارِ، وَإِنَّ الصِّدْقَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْبِرِّ، وَإِنَّ الْبِرَّ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ، وَإِنَّهُ يُقَالُ لِلصَّادِقِ: صَدَقَ وَبَرَّ، وَيُقَالُ لِلْكَاذِبِ: كَذَبَ وَفَجَرَ

مسند أحمد مخرجا- مؤسسة الرسالة (43/ 314)

 حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَزِيدَ يَعْنِي الْوَاسِطِيَّ، عَنْ سُفْيَانَ بْنِ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " يَا عَائِشَةُ، إِنْ كُنْتِ أَلْمَمْتِ بِذَنْبٍ فَاسْتَغْفِرِي اللَّهَ، فَإِنَّ التَّوْبَةَ مِنَ الذَّنْبِ: النَّدَمُ وَالِاسْتِغْفَارُ

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