Category: Divorce (Talaaq)
Fatwa#: 38562
Asked Country: Saudi Arabia

Answered Date: Aug 19,2017

Title: Does this constitute Hurmatul Musaharah

Question

 

I wanted to ask if my parents marriage is intact and if not what shall I do... Once whilst I was 12 years old I had intercouse with my younger sister who was 8 or younger at the time... I feel deep regret and have repented man times but I still have regret and remorse over this issue...please help me.  Jazakallah 

Answer

 

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

It is pleasing to note that you regret your wrong and repented. Allah is most forgiving. You should also apologise to your sister for the grave wrong committed to her. However, that does not constitute that degree of hurmate musahara which affects the marriage of your parents.[1]

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Ridwaan Ibn Khalid Esmail [Kasak]

Student Darul Iftaa
Katete, Zambia  

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



[1]

الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (1/ 187)

قال: " ومن زنا بامرأة حرمت عليه أمها وبنتها " وقال الشافعي رحمه الله الزنا لا يوجب حرمة المصاهرة لأنها نعمة فلا تنال بالمحظور.

ولنا أن الوطء سبب الجزئية بواسطة الولد حتى يضاف إلى كل واحد منهما كملافتصير أصولها وفروعها كأصوله وفروعه وكذلك على العكس والاستمتاع بالجزء حرام إلا في موضع الضرورة وهي الموطوءة والوطء محرم من حيث إنه سبب الولد لا من حيث إنه زنا.

" ومن مسته امرأة بشهوة حرمت عليه أمها وبنتها " وقال الشافعي رحمه الله لا تحرم وعلى هذا الخلاف مسه امرأة بشهوة ونظره إلى فرجها ونظرها إلى ذكره عن شهوة له أن المس والنظر ليسا في معنى الدخول ولهذا لا يتعلق بهما فساد الصوم والإحرام ووجوب الاغتسال فلا يلحقان به.

ولنا أن المس والنظر سبب داع إلى الوطء فيقام مقامه في موضع الاحتياط ثم إن المس بشهوة أن تنتشر الآلة أو تزداد انتشارا هو الصحيح والمعتبر النظر إلى الفرج الداخل ولا يتحقق ذلك إلا عند اتكائها ولو مس فأنزل فقد قيل إنه يوجب الحرمة والصحيح أنه لا يوجبها لأنه بالإنزال تبين أنه غير مفض إلى الوطء وعلى هذا إتيان المرأة في الدبر.

الناشر: دار احياء التراث العربي - بيروت – لبنان 

Hurmat Musaaharat is a law of Shariah that forbids specific men from marrying specific women. This law applies when there has been lawful and unlawful contact between a man and a woman (intentionally or unintentionally) with certain conditions laid down by the Shariah.  These conditions are:

           When lawful intercourse takes place (through marriage) or unlawful intercourse (adultery and fornication) – with the condition that both the boy and the girl are mature or one is close to maturity (the girl should not be less that nine years of age and boy should not be less than twelve years).

 

Intercourse in the state of menstruation or post natal bleeding will have the same outcome of Hurmat Musaaharah.

 

           If there is lust in either the mature or close to mature boy or girl when they make physical contact (touching, kissing etc either through lawful means such as marriage or an unlawful way like adultery or fornication) with no cloth in between or there is a cloth in between but it is so thin that the body heat can be felt through it.

           If a male looks at the inner part of a females’ vulva with lust or a female looks at a males’ private part with lust even though there may not be an erection in the male at the time when the female is not looking (this looking can be either through a lawful means or an unlawful means) and both the male and the female are mature or close to maturity the Hurmat Musaaharah will apply.

 

Definition of Lust

           If erection occurs in a male when physical contact is made or if erection increases when erection had already occurred prior to physical contact.

           If erection does not occur in a male due to health reasons or old age, then if lust occurs in the males heart at the time of physical contact.

           If lust occurs in a female’s heart when physical contact is made and it was not present prior to physical contact.  If lust was present prior to physical contact and it increases when physical contact is made.

           It is not necessary that both persons experience lust when physical contact is made.  Lust in either the male or the female will be sufficient for Hurmat Musaaharah.  (Raddul Muhtar p.107-p.114 v.4 & Hurmatul-Musaaharah p.7-p.9)

The aforementioned information was based on the interpretation of Imam Abu Hanifah (RA).

On the other hand Imam Shafi (RA) is of the view that Hurmat Musaharah is established only through lawful intercourse and not through unlawful sexual intercourse or touching.

Imam Bukhari relates from Saaiduna Ibn Abbas Radiallahu Anhu that, “If someone commits illegal sexual intercourse with his sister-in-law, then his married relation to his wife does not become unlawful. (Sahih Bukhari p.765 v.2)

Imam Darqutni relates from Saaidah Aaisha Radiallahu Anha that the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said, Haram (action) does not prohibit (make Haram) that which is Halal. The Haram (i.e. Hurmat Musaharah) is established through marriage.” (Sunan Darqutni p.188 v.3)

http://daruliftabirmingham.co.uk/a-specific-hurmat-musaharah-case/

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