Fatwa: # 38559
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
Country: Pakistan
Date: 22nd April 2020

Title

Divorce Query

Question

Assalam O Alaikum.

 

My husband and I  got married last year. After 8 months of our marriage, I went to Saudi Arabia with my parents for vacations. We both were in touch via social media mostly. Suddenly after few days we came into many arguments, one day my husband got frustrated and and texted me "I divorce you". I got shock and mad, and we had a fight and the next day again he texted me same "I divorce you". This time it made me weak and I begged him not to go for third and i promised to obey him. He asked me to change and adopt an ideal character of a muslim woman, only after that he will get back to me. I agreed and we moved on. 23 days passed, things were getting normal, one day same thing happened again and he texted me same "I divorce you".

PLEASE NOTE: DURING THIS WHOLE TIME I WAS OUT OF COUNTRY ON VACATIONS AND WE ONLY HAD CONTACT THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA, NO CALL. ONLY TEXTS. 

So my husband divorced me 3 times on different days without observing the iddah period. I came back after 2 months from vacations. We didn't discussed about anything related to divorce, seems we forgot about it. He asked me to focus on my personal grooming and career and to set aside our relation. I lived with that fact and now a total of 6 months have been passed. When I asked him to come back, he told me to wait until he confirms the status of our relation from scholars. 2 3 scholars said that the divorce took place and it is valid. 

I am in complete shock now. I see everything destroying in front of my eyes. Still I am not sure about it, because the divorce didn't took place according to the teachings in Quran. My husband and I were living for the past 6 months thinking that we have a relation. And now everything is confusing. Please help us! We want to be with each other, we want to save our relation.

May Allah ease this for us.

Looking forward for your response.

LK

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful 
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh

You state your husband texted you “I divorce you” on three different days.

In principle, if a husband issues his wife three talāqs through phone text, that constitutes a talaaq-e-mughallazah, thus, terminating the Nikāh completely.[1]The divorcee will have to spend iddat of three menstrual cycles or till birth if she is pregnant.

Accordingly, your Nikāh has terminated from the time your ex-husband issued the third divorce to you through texting.  The relationship with him after the third divorce is Harām. You should immediately separate from your ex-husband and make tauba and istighfaar.

If you wish to re-marry your ex-husband, you will have to marry another person, consummate the marriage and then make a new Nikāh with your ex-husband.[2]

We make Dua Allah grant you the courage to overcome this challenge and Allah grant you peace and happiness.

And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best.

Akhyar Uddin 

Student, Darul Iftaa 

Buffalo, New York, USA 

Checked and Approved by

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 


 


 الأصل للشيباني ط قطر (4/ 392) [1]

ولا تحل له امرأته إذا وقع الثلاث تطليقات حتى تنكح زوجاً غيره ويدخل بها. وبلغنا عن رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - أنه إذا طلق الرجل امرأته ثلاثاً فتزوجت زوجاً غيره أنها لا تحل للأول حتى يدخل بها الثاني ثم يطلقه. ه

 

سورة البقرة:230

 فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِنْ بَعْدُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يَتَرَاجَعَا إِنْ ظَنَّا أَنْ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ ...الخ


الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (2/ 257)   

وإن كان الطلاق ثلاثا في الحرة أو ثنتين في الأمة لم تحل له حتى تنكح زوجا غيره نكاحا صحيحا ويدخل بها ثم يطلقها أو يموت عنها

 

المبسوط للسرخسي (6/ 9) [2]

أن النبي - صلى الله عليه وسلم - قال «إذا طلق امرأته ثلاثا فتزوجت بزوج آخر لم تحل للأول حتى تذوق من عسيلته ويذوق من عسيلتها» ومنه حديث عائشة - رضي الله عنها - «أن رفاعة القرظي - رضي الله عنه - طلق امرأته فأبت طلاقها فتزوجت بعبد الرحمن بن الزبير - رضي الله عنه - ثم جاءت إلى رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - فقالت ما وجدت معه إلا مثل هذه وأشارت إلى هدبة ثوبها فتبسم رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - ثم ضبط نفسه فقال أتريدين أن ترجعي إلى رفاعة فقالت نعم فقال لا حتى يذوق من عسيلتك وتذوقي من عسيلته» وعن عائشة - رضي الله عنها - «أن عمرو بن حزم - رضي الله عنه - طلق امرأته العميصاء - رضي الله عنها - ثلاثا فتزوجت بآخر فلما خلا بها جاءت إلى رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - تشكو ضعف حاله في باب النساء فقال - صلى الله عليه وسلم - هل أصابك فقالت لا فقال صلوات الله عليه لا تحلين لعمرو حتى تذوقي من عسيلته ويذوق من عسيلتك

وقبل في القرآن ذكر الدخول إشارة فإنه أضاف فعل النكاح إلى الزوج وإليها فيقتضي ذلك فعل النكاح بعد الزوجية وذلك الوطء ولأن المقصود منع الأزواج من الاستكثار من الطلاق وذلك لا يحصل بمجرد العقد إنما يحصل بالدخول ففيه مغايظة الزوج الأول ودخول الثاني بها بالنكاح مباح مبغض عند الزوج الأول كما أن الاستكثار من الطلاق مبغض شرعا ليكون الجزاء بحسب العمل

 

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