Category: Miscellaneous
Fatwa#: 38123
Asked Country: Switzerland

Answered Date: Apr 03,2017

Title: How do I advise someone to stop committing a sin that I too once committed?

Question

How do I advice someone to stop doing a sin I used to do myself when I was his age? I’ve repented and stayed away from that sin for a long time but I still feel like a hypocrite for saying anything to him

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Allah Ta’āla says:

كُنْتُمْ خَيْرَ أُمَّةٍ أُخْرِجَتْ لِلنَّاسِ تَأْمُرُوْنَ بِالْمَعْرُوْفِ وَتَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ 

“You are the best of nations produced for mankind. You enjoin the right and forbid the evil”

[Surah Al Imran, verse 110]

Your desire to stop others from breaking the command of Allah Ta’āla is a sign of your Īmān.

As members of the ‘Ummah of the beloved Prophet Ṣallallāhu ‘Alayhi Wasallam, it is our duty to enjoin the right and forbid the evil.

Accordingly, it is your duty to advise the individual with wisdom, diplomacy, and love[1], to repent and refrain from committing the sin.

The fact that you have also committed this sin at a point in your life should not bother you or haunt you. You have repented and refrained from that sin; this is a sign that Allah Ta’āla has forgiven you for the sin.

Ḥaḍrat ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ūd Raḍiyallāhu ‘Anhu narrates that the Prophet Ṣallallāhu ‘Alayhi Wasallam has said:

التَّائِبُ مِنَ الذَّنْبِ كَمَنْ لَا ذَنْبَ لَهُ 

“The one who repents from a sin is like the one who has not committed the sin”[2]

 

In fact, the Fuqahā have mentioned that if one is engaged in a sin and sees someone else committing the same sin, he should still stop the individual from committing the sin. [3]

You should use the fact that you have repented from the sin to your advantage; you have eradicated this sin from your life, thus Allah Ta’āla has rewarded you by allowing you to inspire others to also eradicate this sin from their lives. You can also draw from your experience on what allowed you to repent and refrain from the sin and advise the individual accordingly.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mu’ādh Chati

Student Darul Iftaa
Blackburn, England, UK

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 



[1] ولو أن رجلا رأى منكرا فإن علم أنه لو نهى عن ذلك لكان يقبل منه فإنه لا يسعه السكوت عنه وينبغي له أن ينهي باللين والنصيحة لا على وجه العداوة والحمية

عيون المسائل لأبي الليث السمرقندي ت373ه (220-221) دار الكتب العلمية

[2] رواه ابن ماجه والطبراني كلاهما من رواية أبي عبيدة بن عبد الله بن مسعود عن أبيه ولم يسمع منه ورواة الطبراني رواة الصحيح ورواه ابن أبي دنيا والبيهقي مرفوعا أيضا من حديث ابن عباس

الترغيب والترهيب للمنذري ت656ه (11/4) دار ابن كثير | دار الكلم الطيب – 2014م

قال المحقق محيي الدين ديب مستو ويوسف علي بديوي وسمير أحمد العطار: حسن لغيره

 

[3] من فتاوى الفقيه ... قال رجل يرى منكرا يفعله إنسان وهذا الرجل يفعل مثله لا يسعه تركه بل يجب عليه منعه

خزانة الأكمل للجرجاني ت522ه (483/3) دار الكتب العلمية – 2015م

 

رجل رأى منكرا أو هذا الرجل مما يرتكب هذا المنكر يلزمه أن ينهى عنه لأن الواجب عليه ترك المنكر والنهي عن المنكر وإذا ترك أحدهما لا يترك الآخر

الفتاوى الولوالجية للولوالجي ت540ه (331/2) دار الكتب العلمية

 

رجل رأى من رجل منكرا وهو أيضا يرتكب ذلك كان عليه أن ينهى غيره ويمتنع هو أيضا

فتاوى قاضيخان ت592ه (334/3) قديمي كتب خانة

 

رجل رأى منكرا وهو ممن يرتكب هذا المنكر فعليه أن ينهاه

مختارات النوازل للمرغيناني ت593ه (385) مكتبة الإرشاد

 

ولا يترك مرتكب المنهي النهي عن المنكر

الحاوي القدسي للغزنوي ت593ه (321/2) دار النوادر

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