iam trying to present a scenario of a porn addict whom i know by changing his name..to Adil
Adil who is now 23 yrs has always struggled with sexual urges he used to visit porn web and masturbate before the age of 15...however allah s.w.t guided him & then he avoided masturbation and porn for about more than 40 days .. however the internet present in his house again brought him to visit such sites..he repented again...the cycle of commiting sin and repenting continuing ...he managed successfully to avoid porn for a great period of time but again he commited sin....
adil wants to follow religion ...he prays..has beard as well but theres only one thing that stops him thats porn.
he indirectly tried to convince his parents to remove internet from his huse but his mom refused...he wants to stay with his mom to serve her but the internet is scarying him ...
adil now is feeling very ashamed as he cant directly tell his mom that he looks at porn so please remove from home ... but what else can he do?
adil now thinks probably if he goes to some other place for job it would be better coz he will live in some other rented room where there wont be any wifi connection ...however he does regrett that he will leave his parents.
do you think changing job location would be better?
requests to all moms if your child tells you indirectly not keep net or tv at home please dont keep it
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
It is prohibited (Haram) to view pornographic material. It is also prohibited (Haram) to masturbate. One afflicted with these addictions may read the following articles for guidelines on how to abstain from viewing pornography and masturbation:
In the scenario in reference, Adil may explain to his parents that a computer with internet can be means of distraction and wastage of time if there is no work-related need for it to be in the house. Adil should confide in his mother about his actual fears of evil and immorality in his life through the internet if need be. He should confide in another trusted person in the family to explain to the mother. It is possible the mother does not understand the son. If he proves unsuccessful in this attempt, then should put measures in place to ensure that the computer is in a public place and there is constant supervision and restrictions on the time and sites accessible during the usage of the internet. If he is proves unsuccessful yet again in this attempt, then he may tell his parents that he found another job opportunity a little further from the house which will require for him to live elsewhere. However, in doing so he must ensure that he is easily reachable and can respond to the needs of his parents at any given moment, even if it may be on short notice.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Abdullah ibn Mohammed Aijaz
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.