Category: Basic Tenets of Faith
Fatwa#: 36407
Asked Country: Canada

Answered Date: Jan 26,2018

Title: Father does not give me enough time to prepare

Question

My father, sister, and I usually pray jama'ah, but everytime he tells me to get up and pray with him, he does not give me time to do my wudu, and if I'm doing something he does not give me a minute to finish up. With my sister, he waits until she is fully ready, no matter how long she takes. Because of this I almost always miss a rak'ah or two. If I happen to be too late and miss the salat, he punishes me. When I ask him why he waits for my sister and not me, he says "she is a girl". My question is if what he is doing is ok. I understand that salat comes before anything, but I am only asking for a few minutes to finish what I am doing and do wudu. 

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

It is pleasing to note that your father is conscious of Salah and he is nurturing you to be conscious of Salah as well. The consciousness of Salah in an individual is a great success in his life. Value your father and thank him for nurturing you. Your father loves you and wishes well for you. Consider his sincere intentions for you and overlook him. When it is time for Salah, inculcate a habit to leave everything and prepare for Salah. Do not wait for anyone to remind you of Salah. You should be ready for Salah on time by yourself. In this way, you will also overcome any pressure from your father.

 

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai

 

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