Fatwa: # 34165
Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Country: United States
Date: 21st March 2019

Title

Can one make Istikhara before meeting the proposed spouse?

Question

Assalamualaikum, I have got a proposal for marriage and I wanted to know if I could do Istekhara before meeting the person? I have said yes to meet the person but I am very scared of rejection. The person and his family will come soon In Sha Allah to meet me. JazakAllah

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

May Almighty Allah grant you a suitable and compatible spouse. Aameen.

The purpose of Istikharah is to seek goodness (طلب الخير) from Allah Ta’ala in whatever one intends to do. [1]

We do not know what you mean by rejection. Nevertheless, since you agreed for the person to meet you, it is advisable to continue that and make Istikharah thereafter.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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[1]  حاشية الطهطاوي على مراقي الفلاح - ط. بولاق (ص: 262) 

قوله ( وندب صلاة الاستخارة ) أي طلب ما فيه الخير وهي تكون لأمر في المستقبل ليظهر الله تعالى خير الأمرين وأما صلاة الحاجة فتارة تكون لأمر نزل أو سينزل وهذا الأمر معنى يراد تحصيله أو دفعه وهذا أولى مما في السيد عن النهر

 قوله ( كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يعلمنا الاستخارة الخ ) وقال صلى الله عليه وسلم من سعادة ابن آدم استخارة الله عز وجل زاد الحاكم ومن شقاوة ابن آدم تركه استخارة الله عز وجل وقد روى بإسناد حسن أن داود عليه السلام قال أي عبادك أبغض إليك قال عبد استخارني في أمر فخرت له فلم يرض

 قوله ( يقول ) بدل من قوله يعلمنا

 قوله ( فليركع ركعتين ) يقرأ في الأولى بالكافرون وفي الثانية بالإخلاص وقال بعضهم يقرأ في الأولى بقوله تعالى { وربك يخلق ما يشاء ويختار } إلى يعلنون وفي الثانية بقوله تعالى { وما كان لمؤمن ولا مؤمنة } إلى قوله { مبينا } وبعضهم يجمع بين ما ذكروا إذا تعذر عليه الصلاة استخار بالدعاء فقد روى الترمذي بإسناد ضعيف عن أبي بكر الصديق رضي الله عنه أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم كان إذا أراد الأمر قال اللهم خر لي واختر لي اه  

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