Fatwa: # 34131
Country: India
Date: 23rd February 2019


Can a widow in her iddah attend her daughter’s wedding?



Although I have seen fatwa against iddah for widow but I have specific query regarding attending wedding of her daughter in wedding hall.since it is night function it is possible she will get late to return to home or may stay in her mother home for that night. 

Please advice



In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The injunction of Iddah is specifically mentioned in the Qur’aan and it should be carried out properly.

Allah Ta’ala says:

وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا

Translation: Those of you who die, leaving their wives behind, then they (the wives) shall remain by themselves (in Iddah) for four months and ten days (if they are not pregnant).

(Surah Al-Baqarah, Verse 234)

A woman whose husband passes away should remain in Iddah for four months and ten days. [1]

She should live in the house she used to live in at the time of her husband’s death. Leaving the home is incorrect.  [2]

It is not permissible for the woman to leave her house and attend her daughter’s wedding whilst spending her iddah period. The wedding can be delayed until after the woman completes her iddah.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Muhammad I.V Patel

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1] بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (3/ 195) 

وَمَا وَجَبَ أَصْلًا بِنَفْسِهِ، وَهُوَ عِدَّةُ الْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا فَأَرْبَعَةُ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرٌ، وَقِيلَ إنَّمَا قُدِّرَتْ هَذِهِ الْعِدَّةُ بِهَذِهِ الْمُدَّةِ إنْ كَانَتْ حُرَّةً لِقَوْلِهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ {وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا} [البقرة: 234]


المبسوط للسرخسي (6/ 30)

فَأَمَّا عِدَّةُ الْوَفَاةِ فَإِنَّهَا لَا تَجِبُ إلَّا عَنْ نِكَاحٍ صَحِيحٍ وَيَسْتَوِي فِيهِ الْمَدْخُولُ بِهَا وَغَيْرُ الْمَدْخُولِ بِهَا صَغِيرَةً كَانَتْ أَوْ كَبِيرَةً حَتَّى إذَا كَانَتْ حُرَّةً مُسْلِمَةً أَوْ كِتَابِيَّةً تَحْتَ مُسْلِمٍ فَعِدَّتُهَا مَا قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى {وَاَلَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا} [البقرة: 234]


[2] بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع (3/ 205) 

وَمَنْزِلُهَا الَّذِي تُؤْمَرُ بِالسُّكُونِ فِيهِ لِلِاعْتِدَادِ هُوَ الْمَوْضِعُ الَّذِي كَانَتْ تَسْكُنُهُ قَبْلَ مُفَارَقَةِ زَوْجِهَا وَقَبْلَ مَوْتِهِ سَوَاءٌ كَانَ الزَّوْجُ سَاكِنًا فِيهِ أَوْ لَمْ يَكُنْ؛ لِأَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى أَضَافَ الْبَيْتَ إلَيْهَا بِقَوْلِهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ {لا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنْ بُيُوتِهِنَّ} [الطلاق: 1] وَالْبَيْتُ الْمُضَافُ إلَيْهَا هُوَ الَّذِي تَسْكُنُهُ، وَلِهَذَا قَالَ أَصْحَابُنَا إنَّهَا إذَا زَارَتْ أَهْلَهَا فَطَلَّقَهَا زَوْجُهَا كَانَ عَلَيْهَا أَنْ تَعُودَ إلَى مَنْزِلِهَا الَّذِي كَانَتْ تَسْكُنُ فِيهِ فَتَعْتَدَّ ثَمَّةَ؛ لِأَنَّ ذَلِكَ هُوَ الْمَوْضِعُ الَّذِي يُضَافُ إلَيْهَا وَإِنْ كَانَتْ هِيَ فِي غَيْرِهِ، وَهَذَا فِي حَالَةِ الِاخْتِيَارِ

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