I'm 23years single women, studying. Please give me wajifa for my marriage.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
The mindset of a girl of marriageable age could vary from being relaxed to over anxious depending on the circumstances.
Whatever the case may be, a believer’s final focus is on Taqdeer.
Every aspect of our lives is known by Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) and only that will become of our lives according to the knowledge of Allah (Subahanah Wa Ta’ala). Nothing of our lives can deviate for even one inch from the perfect and absolute knowledge of Allah (Subahanah Wa Ta’ala).
Once a girl of marriageable age has conviction in this, she will find much peace and solace within herself.
Of course, this World is Darul Asbaab- a World of means. Some effort has to be made to find a suitable and compatible marriage partner. That is the responsibility of the elders of the family who would be aware of their responsibility to marry their daughter. However, responsible people would advocate such issues with care and diligency that the daughter will understand and appreciate.
In any case, a girl of marriageable age under the guardianship of responsible parents should never be despondent.
How many marriages are breaking up even within one year. The pain and anxiety in this has a devastating effect and can never be equal to the anxiety of not being married before marriage.
How many girls waited patiently and resorted to Taqdeer and have been finally respectfully married and enjoying a marriage of bliss?
Our advice to you is apart from the efforts put in by your elders in finding a partner for you, you may read the following Du’aas:
اللهم آتنا في الدنيا حسنة و في الآخرة حسنة و قنا عذاب النار
1. Transliteration: “Allahuma Athina Fid dunya Hasanah wa fil aakhirati hasanah wa Qina adhaaban naar”
Translation: “Oh Allah! Grant us goodness in this world and goodness in the Hereafter and protect us from the punishment of the Hellfire” (Bukhari, #6389, Muslim, # 2690)
لا اله الا أنت سبحانك اني كنت من الظالمين
2. Transliteration: “Laa Ilaha Illa anta subhanaka inny kuntu minaz zaalimeen”
Translation: “There is no deity besides you, you are glorified, indeed I am from the oppressed”
This is the Du’aa that Hadhrat Yunus (Alayhi al- Salam) had made while he was in the belly of the whale. Rasullullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said that this is such a Du’aa that no Muslim person recites it except that Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will accept his Du’aa. (Tirmidhi, # 3500, Mustadrak lil Hakim, Vol.1, Pg.505, Al- Adhkaar, Pg. 196)
اني لما انزلت الي من خير فقير
3. Transliteration: “Inni Lima anzalat illayye min khairin faqeer”
Translation: “Indeed I am in need of goodness”
Moosa (Alayhi al- Salam) read this Du’aa at the time of difficulty and was relieved of his difficulty.
Also recite abundant Salawaat everyday and make Du’aa with a positive heart.
May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) grant you a suitable marriage partner. Aameen.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Student Darul Iftaa
Durban, South Africa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.