Fatwa: # 17104
Category: Character & Morals
Country: South Africa
Date: 6th September 2008

Title

My husband does not speak to his sister beacause a few years ago she moved out the house because of an argument with her father. she now lives her non muslim granparents

Question

my husband does not speak to his sister beacause a few years ago she moved out the house because of an argument with her father. she now lives her non muslim granparents and has a non muslim boyfriend. she is now pregnant and her boyfrien will not turn muslim. but her parents did nothing about the problem, they have asked her to come home but she refuses and she acts more like a non muslim than a muslim by the way she dresses etc. she wanted to get married to her boyfriend but her father refused, saying that she would not be a muslim. is my husbad right for cutting her off from his life?

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh

 

It is understandable for your husband to want to sever his relations to his sister fearing the evil effects of her actions upon him and his family. However, the dictates of maintaining family ties would demand that he try his best to reason with her and explain to her the harms of her actions. If he decides to sever ties with her and leaves her to do as she pleases, it could result in the most unfortunate situation where she reneges from the fold of Islam. This will be a tremendous loss. We recommend that your husband and the remainder of the family make the most of the blessed month of Ramadan by making continuous du‘ā for her. At the same time, he should attempt to discuss the matter with her in a soft and loving tone. He needs to win her confidence and that could take some time. With patience, much du‘ā and the help of Allah, her heart will change. We make du‘ā that Allah assist your husband in his efforts and his sister in acting in accordance to the dictates of the Sharī‘ah. Amīn.

And Allah knows best

Wassalam

Ml. Yusuf bin Yaqub,
Student Darul Iftaa

Concurred by:

Ml. Ehzaz Ajmeri,
Student Darul Iftaa

Darul Iftaa

DISCLAIMER - AskImam.org questions
AskImam.org answers issues pertaining to Shar'ah. Thereafter, these questions and answers are placed for public view on www.askimam.org for educational purposes. However, many of these answers are unique to a particular scenario and cannot be taken as a basis to establish a ruling in another situation or another environment. Askimam.org bears no responsibility with regards to these questions being used out of their intended context.
  • The Shar's ruling herein given is based specifically on the question posed and should be read in conjunction with the question.
  • AskImam.org bears no responsibility to any party who may or may not act on this answer and is being hereby exempted from loss or damage howsoever caused.
  • This answer may not be used as evidence in any Court of Law without prior written consent of AskImam.org.
  • Any or all links provided in our emails, answers and articles are restricted to the specific material being cited. Such referencing should not be taken as an endorsement of other contents of that website.
The Messenger of Allah said, "When Allah wishes good for someone, He bestows upon him the understanding of Deen."
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]