Fatwa: # 16967
Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Country: South Africa
Date: 25th July 2008

Title

My wife goes and tells our bedroom secrets to her friends

Question

about 8 months ago i found out my wifer was talking to other females about what was going on in our bedroom. in that moment of anger i told her that if she talks to another person about what happens in out bedroom she must go back to her mums house. i think my intention was divorce. i have now found out that she has continued talking about these issues to other woman for the last 6-8 months.what is the status of my Nikkah? i have never uttered the words talaak to her.

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Firstly, it should be noted that it is not necessary to literally utter the words of divorce in order for the divorce to take place. Talaaq takes place with such words also which metaphorically denotes upon divorce with the intention of divorce.

Secondly, you have stated in your query that you think you intended divorce. The ruling of your marriage will depend on the level of your thought. If you merely have a doubt (and you cannot give preference to whether you really intended divorce or not), then your nikah will still remain intact. On the contrary, if you have a greater thought (dhann ghalib) that you really did intend divorce, then the marriage between you and your wife will be terminated. In order to reconcile with your wife, a new nikah should be made.

 

الاختيار لتعليل المختار - (ج 1 / ص 35)

وكنايات الطلاق لا يقع بها إلا بنية أو بدلالة الحال، ويقع بائنا إلا اعتدي واستبرئي رحمك وأنت واحدة فيقع بها واحدة رجعية.

وألفاظ البائن قوله: أنت بائن، بتة، بتلة، حرام، حبلك على غاربك، خلية، برية، الحقي بأهلك، وهبتك لأهلك، سرحتك،

 

الفتاوى الهندية - (ج 1 / ص 420 دار الفكر)

وإذا أضافه إلى الشرط وقع عقيب الشرط اتفاقا مثل أن يقول لامرأته إن دخلت الدار فأنت طالق

 

درر الحكام شرح مجلة الأحكام - (ج 1 / ص 20 دار الكتب العلمية)

ما ثبت بيقين لا يرتفع بالشك وما ثبت بيقين لا يرتفع إلا بيقين

 

درر الحكام شرح مجلة الأحكام - (ج 1 / ص 20 دار الكتب العلمية)

وأما إذا كان القلب يطمئن للجهة الراجحة فتكون ( ظنا غالبا ) والظن الغالب ينزل منزلة اليقين . 

 

And Allah knows best

Wassalam

Ml. Ismail Moosa,
Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa

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