Fatwa: # 16693
Category: Character & Morals
Country: Europe
Date: 11th May 2008


Is it permissible to stop talking to members of your family if they are not very practising and they male fun of the beard and the veil?


Is it permissible to stop talking to members of your family if they are not very practising and they male fun of the beard and the whole of concept of the veil,he also spreads fitnah within our family which causes breaking blood ties


In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful  

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

At the outset it is important to understand that Islam is a religion of peace and harmony. Islam does not encourage fighting, enmity and hatred. Rather Islam encourages love, affection and healthy family ties.

In fact Islam encourages us to maintain ties with non muslim family members as well. The mother of Asma bintu Abi Bakr (radiyallaahu anha) was a disbeliever. Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) commanded Asma to maintain ties with her mother. (Bukhari, #2620). When Islam encourages to maintain ties with non muslim family members, then to a greater extent we are required to maintain ties with our muslim family members.

In the Quran, Allah Ta’ala speaks of the incident of Fir’own who was a tyrant ruler and he disliked Musa (alayhis salaam) and his followers. Allah Ta’ala commanded Musa (alayhis salaam) to invite Fir’own to his worship and advised him to address Fir’own in kind words, perhaps Fir’own may take heed.

In the light of the Quran and Hadith, we advise you to be diplomatic in your approach. Exercise patience, tolerance and forbearance. Continue carrying out the injunctions of Deen and maintain ties with them. Perhaps they will realize their mistake. Do not severe ties with them. Bear in mind that cutting of conversation will stir up animosity, break up a healthy family relation and will result in a worst situation. Insha Allah, your good akhlaaq will have an impact on him some day.

And Allah knows best


Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa

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